I, ____________________, commit to living the Lord’s standards for dating word for word as written in For the Strength of Youth until February 15th.
“Avoid going on frequent dates with the same person. Developing serious relationships too early in life can limit the number of other people you meet and can perhaps lead to immorality.” – For the Strength of Youth
I, ____________________, commit to not going on frequent dates with the same person too early in life.
I, ____________________, commit to teaching my children that they should not go on frequent dates with the same person too early in life.
“For whatever reason, high school boys felt they had to do something elaborate or bizarre to ask for a date, especially for an event like a prom, and girls felt they had to do likewise to accept. In addition, a date had to be something of an expensive production…
“All of this made dating more difficult. And the more elaborate and expensive the date, the fewer the dates. As dates become fewer and more elaborate, this seems to create an expectation that a date implies seriousness or continuing commitment. That expectation discourages dating even more. Gone is the clumsy and inexpensive phone call your parents and grandparents and I used to make. That call went something like this: “What’re ya doin’ tonight? How about a movie?” Or, “How about taking a walk downtown?” Cheap dates like that can be frequent and nonthreatening, since they don’t seem to imply a continuing commitment.
“Simple and more frequent dates allow both men and women to ‘shop around’ in a way that allows extensive evaluation of the prospects. The old-fashioned date was a wonderful way to get acquainted with a member of the opposite sex. It encouraged conversation. It allowed you to see how you treat others and how you are treated in a one-on-one situation. It gave opportunities to learn how to initiate and sustain a mature relationship. None of that happens in hanging out.” – Dating versus Hanging Out by Elder Dallin H. Oaks, emphasis added
Want to know what exactly you’re committing to? Read the Dating section of For the Strength of Youth: http://forthestrengthofall.com/for-the-strength-of-youth/dating/