Category Archives: Friends

Friends Closing Post

Congratulations! The Friends segment has finished! The next segment will be starting later today when I send out the initiation email at 6:00 pm. The topic will be Gratitude, and the segment will last for three weeks, until May 31.

Hopefully throughout these last three weeks we’ve proved to ourselves that it is in fact possible to have good friends, and even invite them to church activities! Hopefully we now have a greater love for and a better relationship with them. Hopefully we’ve had our standard of “normal” raised, so that even as we stop being as diligent we continue anyway. Let us remember that good friends require effort, and that they will be blessed as we do our part to strengthen them. Have a Happy Mothers Day, and Thank You to all the Mothers reading this! The World couldn’t go on without you!

~ George

Daily Reminder on Friends: #21 out of 21

Today I,  ____________________, will strive to be a good friend.

“As you strive to live the gospel, you will encourage your friends to do likewise. Set an example of keeping the commandments, participating in Church activities, preparing to serve the Lord throughout you life, and remaining worthy to attend the temple.” – For the Strength of Youth

I, ____________________, commit to strive to live the gospel and set an example for my friends today and throughout this week.


“One of the great tributes the Savior can give is to call us “friends.” We know that He loves with a perfect love all of His Heavenly Father’s children. Yet for those who have been faithful in their service with Him, He reserves this special title. You remember the words from the 84th section of the Doctrine and Covenants: “And again I say unto you, my friends, for from henceforth I shall call you friends, it is expedient that I give unto you this commandment, that ye become even as my friends in days when I was with them, traveling to preach the gospel in my power”.

“We become His friends as we serve others for Him. He is the perfect example of the kind of friend we are to become. He wants only what is best for His Heavenly Father’s children. Their happiness is His happiness. He feels their sorrow as His own because He has paid the price of all their sins, taken upon Himself all their infirmities, borne all their troubles, and felt all their longings. His motives are pure. He seeks no recognition for Himself but to give all glory to His Heavenly Father. The perfect friend, Jesus Christ, is completely selfless in offering happiness to others.

“Each of us who has made the baptismal covenant has promised to follow His example to bear one another’s burdens as He would…

“And, in time and in eternity, we will feel the joy of being welcomed to the company of His faithful friends. I pray for that blessing for all of us and for those we will serve.” – Faithful Friends by Henry B. Eyring


Want to know what exactly you’re committing to? Read the Friends section of For the Strength of Youth: http://forthestrengthofall.com/for-the-strength-of-youth/friends/

Ask yourself now and throughout the day, “Am I being a good friend?”

Daily Reminder on Friends: #20 out of 21

Today I,  ____________________, will strive to be a good friend.

“As you seek to be a friend to others, do not compromise your standards. If your friends urge you to do things that are wrong, be the one to stand for the right, even if you stand alone.”  – For the Strength of Youth

I, ____________________, commit to stand for what’s right, even when friends are urging me to do otherwise.


“You cannot afford to do anything that would place a curtain between you and the ministering of angels in your behalf.

“You cannot be immoral in any sense. You cannot be dishonest. You cannot cheat or lie. You cannot take the name of God in vain or use filthy language and still have the right to the ministering of angels.” – Personal Worthiness to Exercise the Priesthood by Gordon B. Hinckley


Want to know what exactly you’re committing to? Read the Friends section of For the Strength of Youth: http://forthestrengthofall.com/for-the-strength-of-youth/friends/

Ask yourself now and throughout the day, “Am I being a good friend?”

Daily Reminder on Friends: #19 out of 21

Today I,  ____________________, will strive to be a good friend.

“Invite your friends of other faiths to your Church meetings and activities. Help them feel welcome and included. Many people have joined the Church through the example and fellowship of their friends.” – For the Strength of Youth

Depending on your situation for today, do either of the following:

I, ____________________, commit to inviting a friend to a Church meeting or activity today.

Or

I, ____________________, commit to thinking right now of a friend whom I will invite to a Church meeting or activity before next Friday.


“Hold up your light that it may shine unto the world.” – 3 Nephi 18:24

“Be the kind of friend who takes people to Christ… In every word, in every action, in every choice, you can lead people to the Savior, who can heal us not only physically but also spiritually.” – Where Will Your Friends Take You? by John Bytheway


Want to know what exactly you’re committing to? Read the Friends section of For the Strength of Youth: http://forthestrengthofall.com/for-the-strength-of-youth/friends/

Ask yourself now and throughout the day, “Am I being a good friend?”

Special Reminder on Friends: Judging

While looking up content for today’s reminder I found a truly fantastic talk, “Judge Not, That Ye Be Not Judged”, by N. Eldon Tanner. It was such a fantastic talk that it felt like I was setting aside every other paragraph to potentially be posted. I finally decided on what part to post, but I still wanted to use the rest of it in some way. So, I decided to make a special out of all the content I didn’t post. Here it is, copied straight out of my notes:

“Wouldn’t this old world be better

If the folks we meet would say:

‘I know something good about you,’

And then treat us that way?”

From <https://www.lds.org/ensign/1972/07/judge-not-that-ye-be-not-judged?lang=eng>

It seems common practice for people to talk about their friends and neighbors and to criticize their seeming peculiarities and weaknesses. In fact, it is so general that one would think that gossiping about and judging others was the thing to do. How often have we heard of young men who were criticized, judged, and ridiculed because of their peculiarities and yet who eventually became leaders in their different fields of endeavor.

From <https://www.lds.org/ensign/1972/07/judge-not-that-ye-be-not-judged?lang=eng>

Jesus Christ, some 2,000 years ago, realizing man’s tendency to make unrighteous judgment, said:

“Judge not, that ye be not judged.

“For with what judgment ye judge, ye shall be judged: and with what measure ye mete, it shall be measured to you again.

“And why beholdest thou the mote that is in thy brother’s eye, but considerest not the beam that is in thine own eye?

“Or how wilt thou say to thy brother, Let me pull out the mote out of thine eye; and, behold, a beam is in thine own eye?

“Thou hypocrite, first cast out the beam out of thine own eye; and then shalt thou see clearly to cast out the mote out of thy brother’s eye.” (Matt. 7:1–5.)

It seems he is saying that unless we are without fault, we are not qualified to judge.

From <https://www.lds.org/ensign/1972/07/judge-not-that-ye-be-not-judged?lang=eng>

The reason, therefore, that we cannot judge is obvious. We cannot see what is in the heart. We do not know motives, although we impute motives to every action we see. They may be pure while we think they are improper.

It is not possible to judge another fairly unless you know his desires, his faith, and his goals. Because of a different environment, unequal opportunity, and many other things, people are not in the same position. One may start at the top and the other at the bottom, and they may meet as they are going in opposite directions. Someone has said that it is not where you are but the direction in which you are going that counts; not how close you are to failure or success but which way you are headed. How can we, with all our weaknesses and frailties, dare to arrogate to ourselves the position of a judge? At best, man can judge only what he sees; he cannot judge the heart or the intention, or begin to judge the potential of his neighbor.

When we try to judge people, which we should not do, we have a great tendency to look for and take pride in finding weaknesses and faults, such as vanity, dishonesty, immorality, and intrigue. As a result, we see only the worst side of those being judged.

From <https://www.lds.org/ensign/1972/07/judge-not-that-ye-be-not-judged?lang=eng>

“Sometimes even when our friends are accused of wrongdoing or gossip is started about them, we disloyally accept and repeat what we hear without knowing all the facts. It is sad indeed that sometimes friendships are destroyed and enmity created on the basis of misinformation.

“If there be one place in life where the attitude of the agnostic is acceptable, it is in this matter of judging. It is the courage to say, “I don’t know. I am waiting for further evidence. I must hear both sides of the question.”

“Only by suspending judgment do we exhibit real charity. It is hard to understand why we are ready to condemn our neighbors and our friends on circumstantial evidence while we are all so determined to see that every criminal has a fair and open trial. Surely we can try to eliminate pride, passion, personal feeling, prejudice, and pettiness from our minds, and show charity to those around us.

“Let us look for the good rather than try to discover any hidden evil. We can easily find fault in others if that is what we are looking for.” – “Judge Not, That Ye Be Not Judged” by N. Eldon Tanner

Gossip is the worst form of judging. The tongue is the most dangerous, destructive, and deadly weapon available to man. A vicious tongue can ruin the reputation and even the future of the one attacked. Insidious attacks against one’s reputation, loathsome innuendoes, half-lies about an individual are as deadly as those insect parasites that kill the heart and life of a mighty oak. They are so stealthy and cowardly that one cannot guard against them. As someone has said, “It is easier to dodge an elephant than a microbe.”

What a different world it would be if we would put into practice what we have all heard so many times: “… whatsoever ye would that men should do to you, do ye even so to them: for this is the law and the prophets.” (Matt. 7:12.) Instead, we are all so inclined to judge others by a standard different from the one by which we would wish or be willing to be judged.

From <https://www.lds.org/ensign/1972/07/judge-not-that-ye-be-not-judged?lang=eng>

If we could accept and practice the second great commandment, “Thou shall love thy neighbour as thyself” (Matt. 22:39), and really learn to love our neighbors, there would be no vicious gossip or bearing false witness. 

From <https://www.lds.org/ensign/1972/07/judge-not-that-ye-be-not-judged?lang=eng>

We never gain anything or improve our own character by trying to tear down another. We have seen close friendships destroyed through words spoken

From <https://www.lds.org/ensign/1972/07/judge-not-that-ye-be-not-judged?lang=eng>

May I humbly say in all sincerity that I love the Lord with all my heart and that I love my fellowmen. I hold no hard feelings of any kind toward any man, and I sincerely pray for forgiveness wherein I have offended anyone. I realize, as the Savior said, “Inasmuch as ye have done it unto one of the least of these my brethren, ye have done it unto me.”

From <https://www.lds.org/ensign/1972/07/judge-not-that-ye-be-not-judged?lang=eng>

 

Are you willing to make the commitment?

I, ____________________, commit to not judge others today or the rest of the week.

~ George

Daily Reminder on Friends: #18 out of 21

Today I,  ____________________, will strive to be a good friend.

“Refrain from judging and criticizing those around you. Do not participate in any form of bullying.” – For the Strength of Youth

I, ____________________, commit to not participating in any form of bullying today. I will also refrain from judging and criticizing those around me.


“Sometimes even when our friends are accused of wrongdoing or gossip is started about them, we disloyally accept and repeat what we hear without knowing all the facts. It is sad indeed that sometimes friendships are destroyed and enmity created on the basis of misinformation.

“If there be one place in life where the attitude of the agnostic is acceptable, it is in this matter of judging. It is the courage to say, “I don’t know. I am waiting for further evidence. I must hear both sides of the question.”

“Only by suspending judgment do we exhibit real charity. It is hard to understand why we are ready to condemn our neighbors and our friends on circumstantial evidence while we are all so determined to see that every criminal has a fair and open trial. Surely we can try to eliminate pride, passion, personal feeling, prejudice, and pettiness from our minds, and show charity to those around us.

“Let us look for the good rather than try to discover any hidden evil. We can easily find fault in others if that is what we are looking for.” – “Judge Not, That Ye Be Not Judged” by N. Eldon Tanner

I, ____________________, commit to not judge others today.


Want to know what exactly you’re committing to? Read the Friends section of For the Strength of Youth: http://forthestrengthofall.com/for-the-strength-of-youth/friends/

Ask yourself now and throughout the day, “Am I being a good friend?”

Daily Reminder on Friends: #17 out of 21

Today I,  ____________________, will strive to be a good friend.

“Treat everyone with kindness and respect” – For the Strength of Youth

I, ____________________, commit to treating everyone with kindness and respect today.


How Do We Develop Better Friendships?

1.
Be sincere.
2.
Learn people’s names and other important things about them. Be a good listener.
3.
Be unselfish.
4.
Show brotherly love and concern for them. Give them helpful service.
5.
Graciously let them be of service to you when they offer.
6.
Smile and be positive.

Source: Good Friends by Elder L. Tom Perry

Pick one of these and commit to doing it today.


Want to know what exactly you’re committing to? Read the Friends section of For the Strength of Youth: http://forthestrengthofall.com/for-the-strength-of-youth/friends/

Ask yourself now and throughout the day, “Am I being a good friend?”

Daily Reminder on Friends: #16 out of 21

Today I,  ____________________, will strive to be a good friend.

“To have good friends, be a good friend. Show genuine interest in others; smile and let them know you care about them.” – For the Strength of Youth

I, ____________________, commit to showing genuine interest in others today.


“Being a good friend to others means taking the time to really understand them and then spending the time to help them live a happier life.” – Fake Friends and Fool’s Gold by David Dickson


Want to know what exactly you’re committing to? Read the Friends section of For the Strength of Youth: http://forthestrengthofall.com/for-the-strength-of-youth/friends/

Ask yourself now and throughout the day, “Am I being a good friend?”

Daily Reminder on Friends: #15 out of 21

Today I,  ____________________, will strive to be a good friend.

“Everyone needs good and true friends… Choose friends who share your values so you can strengthen and encourage each other in living high standards.” – For the Strength of Youth

I, ____________________, commit to striving to have friends who share my values.


“The friends we choose to associate with are main contributing factors in the formation of our character. We form social habits by association with our friends. These habits can be useful when directed towards the formation of a wholesome personality.” – Good Friends
by Elder L. Tom Perry


Want to know what exactly you’re committing to? Read the Friends section of For the Strength of Youth: http://forthestrengthofall.com/for-the-strength-of-youth/friends/

Ask yourself now and throughout the day, “Am I being a good friend?”

Daily Reminder on Friends: #14 out of 21

Today I,  ____________________, will strive to be a good friend.

“As you strive to live the gospel, you will encourage your friends to do likewise. Set an example of keeping the commandments, participating in Church activities, preparing to serve the Lord throughout you life, and remaining worthy to attend the temple.” – For the Strength of Youth

I, ____________________, commit to strive to live the gospel and set an example for my friends today and throughout this week.


“Living prophets of God have asked us to be faithful friends to those who come into the Church as converts and to go to the rescue of those who have drifted away. We can do it, and we will do it if we always remember the Savior. When we reach out to give succor and to lift a burden, He reaches with us. He will lead us to those in need. He will bless us to feel what they feel. As we persist in our efforts to serve them, we will more and more be given the gift of feeling His love for them. That will give us courage and strength to reach out again and again in faithfulness.

“And, in time and in eternity, we will feel the joy of being welcomed to the company of His faithful friends. I pray for that blessing for all of us and for those we will serve.” – Faithful Friends by Henry B. Eyring


Want to know what exactly you’re committing to? Read the Friends section of For the Strength of Youth: http://forthestrengthofall.com/for-the-strength-of-youth/friends/

Ask yourself now and throughout the day, “Am I being a good friend?”